How parents can help their children choose friends

What kind of friends a child makes, cannot be underestimated for the development of morality and the formation of a sound personality. So, how should parents who are guardian's help their children choose their friends?

 　　There is such a description in "Three Character Classics": "Meng Mengmu, choose a neighbor." The reason why Mengmu moved to his place is to let young Mencius hear more, see good, learn.

It’s good. Children next door are very important because they often play together and have fun together. 

Therefore, for the advantages and disadvantages of the children next door, parents should pay more attention to observation and analysis, and give the child guidance in a timely manner, so that the child can learn to accept and refuse, learn the advantages and strengths of the children next door, and stay away from bad behavior patterns. Make it gradually form a sound personality.

 　　Parents want to help their children choose good friends, not only to care more about their children, but also to pay more attention to their children's friends, help children build a bridge of friendship, and create good interpersonal relationships for children. 

Parents who know their children's friends can also better understand their children from another angle - through their children's friends, to understand their children's thoughts and actions, and to strengthen education and guidance for their children.

　　What we emphasize here is that parents help their children to choose friends, rather than parents instead of children to choose friends. 

Although parents should pay attention to how their children make friends and what kind of friends they are, they are not wearing colored glasses and always staring at their children's friends. 

If you put your child's poor performance in some aspects with his friends, it is easy to prejudice the children's friends, and it is not easy to deal with the relationship between parents and children, parents and children. 

Therefore, parents should have a correct understanding of their children's friends, instead of always classifying them into "good children" and "bad children", so as not to cause psychological damage to their children and their children's friends.

 　　As a parent, we must also consciously communicate with the parents of children and friends in a timely manner to jointly educate their children. If you find that one of the children has a problem, you can communicate with the child's parents to correct the child's problems in a timely manner. 

In this way, the quality of the children's friends will be improved, which will also affect the children themselves, thus forming a virtuous circle of mutual influence, mutual help, common improvement and common progress of the children's friends. (research)